Suffocating Love
Victims' Cases:
Stories Behind Closed Doors
Imitate Partner Violence (IPV)
Refers to acts of harassment, control, coercion, or other unlawful harm—physical, psychological, or economic—committed by a spouse or former spouse, or by a current or former cohabiting partner, including same-sex partners.
The law also recognizes IPV as including physical or psychological harm inflicted by a non-cohabiting partner in an intimate relationship, provided that the victim is 16 years of age or older.
(Domestic Violence Prevention Act, 2015)
He said he loves me and cares about me
Someone who truly loves you
would never be able to hurt you.
When love comes with fear, silence, or pain—
is it still love at all?
It was never love—
just control disguised as affection.
The United Nations has expanded the definition of domestic abuse to encompass both Domestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). This broader framework recognizes that abuse can occur in any form of family or intimate relationship, including non-cohabiting romantic partners.
By doing so, the UN affirms that violence is not limited to traditional household structures, but can emerge wherever emotional or relational power is misused—regardless of marital status, living arrangements, or gender.
Physical Abuse
Physical abuse refers to harm inflicted on the body. It includes actions such as hitting, punching, kicking, pushing, pulling, dragging, biting, twisting, pinching, slamming, hair-pulling, choking, or using weapons or objects. Injuries may be visible—like bruises or cuts—or hidden, such as dislocations or concussions.
Sexual violence
Sexual violence involves coercing someone into sexual acts against their will, including rape, molestation, harassment, or forcing the victim to engage in sexually explicit physical acts meant to humiliate or degrade them. In recent years, a new form of intimate partner violence has emerged—threatening to share or actually distributing nude or intimate images without consent. This is commonly referred to as “revenge porn,” or non-consensual sharing of private sexual content.
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse includes all non-physical behaviors, both overt and subtle, that occur in a repetitive and patterned manner over time. Common tactics include: Criticism (insults, name-calling, infantilizing) Hostility (yelling, silent treatment, verbal attacks) Intimidation (threats, posturing) Humiliation (using personal knowledge to shame the victim) Harassment (persistent, repeated demands) These behaviors are meant to control or dominate the victim, often leading to low self-worth, psychological distress, and in severe cases, suicidal thoughts.
Coercive Control
Also known as “controlling behavior” or “coercive power and control”, this form of abuse occurs when one partner systematically uses various tactics to dominate and control the other in a relationship. Beyond visible harm, psychological, emotional, and financial abuse can inflict deep fear, pain, and suffering on the victim.
Victims
The following includes four cases from different types of intimate abusive relationships.
Let us listen to these survivors as they reclaim their voices.


"What should I do? My ex-boyfriend threatened to harm my family if we break up."
"He beats me whenever we have a fight. I want to leave him but he won't let me go."
"He got angry and snatched my phone away, preventing me from sending messages."
"My ex-boyfriend is still hanging around me. He knows where my home is.
And know roughly what time I get off work."



